Exploring Sensations
Tracy Lamperti
Whether you and your partner are comfortable with the expression of physical love already or in repairing, restoring or further developing your sex life, it is beneficial to take some time to explore the wide array of physical sensations that the body can experience.
For this writing, I am using “have sex” and “make love” interchangeable. The two are not necessarily synonymous, because one can “have sex” with a stranger. But for the committed couple, there isn’t a great need to split hairs, however, this process is one of making love between you.
It is valuable information for both of you to know what each of you enjoys and does not enjoy.
Who is this process appropriate for?
- Couples in committed relationships
- Newlyweds
- Longstanding married couples
- Very shy or inhibited adults
- Couples with a desire discrepancy or mismatch
- Couples where one or both are impacted by past sexual trauma
- Couples where one or both have little experience
- Couples who desire a strong, healthy, deep, loving, committed marriage
This process will serve the following purposes;
- Help you discover sensations that you may not have experienced before.
- Help you discover how to deliver the touch that your partner likes and avoid that which they do not like.
- Help you find your voice to express what you enjoy and what you do not.
- Trust in yourself and your partner more deeply.
- Build confidence to speak up.
- Help you feel empowered to ask for what you need.
- Spark your creativity and willingness to try new things.
- Create a feeling of safety and togetherness.
Trust is a key factor, the most important factor to having a meaningful, emotional, sexual experience with your partner. When you trust your partner to touch you in the most personal and private areas of your naked body, that is when you can let your guard down and allow yourself to relax and open your body and mind to the full depth of the experience and your relationship.
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Do you get it that every time we seem to turn on the tv, news or in the movies these days the boys and men are getting terrible representation? Whether they are kowtowing to a bossy woman, making obscene gestures or noises, getting drunk or on drugs, committing some stupid crime, espousing the effeminate or acting like a pompus a__, or the countless other ways that they are being portrayed. What was wrong with Davy Crockett, or Huck Finn, Andy Griffith, Superman? Why have Sponge Bob and Homer Simpson and the many other “men” of today been selling by being so stupid? I am not up on any of today’s shows, but I get the point from the stories I hear, that it is not good. Even when an olympic star comes into the spotlight, all too often the story is tainted by some remark or behavior he made, not realizing everyone was watching. Where are the boys supposed to get their education? And what about the girls? Where are they supposed to learn who would make a good husband and father? What brought this on was my prepping for morning meeting tomorrow at the Lamperti Homeschool. I was looking for something good in The Children’s Book of Virtues , Edited by William J. Bennett, Illustrated by Michael Hague. I just happened to open to page 38, Boy Wanted , by Frank Crane. I won’t put the whole story here, but here is a sample.
Photo by Michelle Kaye
What are those? Are those beans? What are they for? Can I touch them? One can learn a lot about a child by watching them play. Play gives us a glimpse into the thought process, emotions, relationships and the way they organise and put things together. With beans, even a teenager or adult can “sort things out” with beans, sand and other materials. Beans make a good medium for tea parties, hide and seek, play ground play, imaginative water, etc. In fact, beans can bring comfort to all ages. Children who don’t feel like they have a voice or have trouble sharing their thoughts and feelings often find themselves running their hands through the field of beans. The same goes for teenagers. Little ones, of course want to play with the beans, which provides a great opportunity to evaluate self-control, adherance to limits and their depth of imagination or level of organization. Beans are awesome! The video shown here represents a variety of bean benefits! An older adolescent, actually, a young adult, worked out many complicated issues in her sessions week after week while sorting beans. This person successfully sorted out ALL of the kidney beans, sorting on many levels! It is so curious to children to come to their therapy session and notice that something has happened involving the beans. It gives children and teens a real sense of commonality with others as well as insight. They come to learn that some people think like they do and some think differently, and it’s all ok. They learn that, while I may share something about the “beans,” I won’t “spill the beans.” They can trust that I will keep their confidence, just like I keep the confidence of the last “bean worker.” As you see in the video, a young person is re-mixing the kidney beans. This young person, being someone who really struggles with self-control and had been held back for weeks from mixing the beans that had been sorted out. We shared such a delightful moment when she was finally permitted to “mix!” Timing is so important, but relationship is more! So the cycle will continue when many young people come in this week and discover the new state of the beans! Tracy Lamperti, Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
