Go a Little Deeper

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Going a Little Deeper

These prompts invite you beyond the everyday and into more of each other’s inner worlds. You may find yourselves talking about feelings, protective patterns, your stories, your relationship, faith, intimacy, and the experiences that have shaped you.


Choose what feels meaningful and appropriate for the moment. There’s no need to move through the prompts in order—or to go deeper than either of you wants to go.

Your Inner World

  1. What are you carrying that’s been heavier than I probably realize?
  2. What’s harder than it looks from the outside?
  3. What’s something you’ve been thinking about but haven’t said out loud?
  4. What feels unfinished, unresolved, or stuck right now?
  5. What’s something you’ve learned about yourself recently?

Emotional Awareness

  1. What emotions are hardest for you to stay with?
  2. What do you notice happens inside you during difficult moments?
  3. What have you noticed in your body that may be trying to get your attention?
  4. What feels most vulnerable to admit?

Protective Patterns

  1. When conflict happens, what do you usually do first?
  2. What does that response help protect?
  3. When you feel misunderstood, what happens inside you?
  4. When you feel overwhelmed, what do you notice yourself wanting to do?
  5. Is there anything you’ve been avoiding, putting off, or trying not to think about?

Your Story

  1. Growing up, what happened when you were upset?
  2. What did you learn about needing other people?
  3. When have you felt deeply seen?
  4. When have you felt emotionally alone?
  5. What experiences have most shaped the way you love today?

Being Held

  1. What makes you feel alone?
  2. What kinds of responses help you feel accompanied?
  3. What responses leave you feeling unseen?
  4. When do you feel most emotionally held?
  5. When your partner hurts, what do you naturally want to do?
  6. What makes it difficult to simply stay present?
  7. What do you wish I understood about your experience right now?
  8. What currently feels tender?

Faith and Meaning

  1. How has your faith been part of this season of your life?
  2. Where has your faith brought questions or uncertainty?
  3. Has there been a Scripture, prayer, or truth that has stayed with you?
  4. In difficult moments, how can I best support your faith journey?
  5. What does living out your faith look like to you in everyday life?
  6. What parts of your faith feel most important for us to share?
  7. Where do you think we have different visions for what a faith-filled life looks like?
  8. When our beliefs or convictions differ, what feels most important for me to understand about yours?
  9. Where do you hope we can move in the same direction, even if we don’t see everything the same way?
  10. What are you hoping faith will look like in the life we are building together?
  11. Are there choices about how we spend our time, energy, money, or attention that feel connected to your faith or values?
  12. How would you like our faith to shape the way we love one another?

Intimacy Reflection

  1. How would you describe the emotional atmosphere surrounding intimacy in our relationship?
  2. What helps you feel emotionally safe before intimacy?
  3. What makes intimacy feel difficult, vulnerable, confusing, or distant?
  4. Is there something you’ve wanted me to understand about your experience?
  5. What helps you feel free to be fully yourself with me?

Hope

  1. What are you hoping for?
  2. What feels possible?
  3. What feels scary?
  4. Where do you most need hope today?
  5. If one small thing felt different a month from now, what would you hope it would be?
  6. What gives you hope for us?