Chestfeeding or Breastfeeding

Tracy Lamperti

Does my profession make peoples’ lives better or worse?

Have you noticed that we come up with a name for something and then that something becomes a mental health epidemic.

ADHD is a great example. Have a look at this chart from the CDC. (Click the image to be taken to the article.)


https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/timeline.html

The symptoms cluster was defined and labeled/named. Medication was developed. Therapists were trained. Strategies and treatment constructs were established. Teachers were trained. Doctors were trained. The numbers have not stopped rising since, which begs the question that the inquiring mind wants answered, have we become better at identifying and treating and that’s why the numbers keep going up, or have we all bought into the pop-psychology mindset of, “I have ADHD.” “I have addiction.” “I have mental illness.” “It’s my ‘mental illness’ that’s causing this.” “There are lots of reasons why ‘I can’t….’ [sit still, stop eating cookies, using drugs, etc….] and none of them have anything to do with me. “

What about Opiod abuse? Are we making a dent there?

https://www.cdc.gov/drugoverdose/data/analysis.html


Of all the things our children could be studying in health class…. we prioritize educating them on what substance abuse is, how people abuse substances, how people “huff,” how people cut, how people make themselves throw up.


Have a look here at why the DARE program failed and lost it’s funding.

Why the D.A.R.E. Program Failed

Can you imagine a world where we teach children, all children, the qualities of successful men and women? Teaching children how to conquer tough challenges? How to get what they want and feel the way they want to feel without drugs or throwing up or huffing. There are so many topics and so many resources, but instead, we sit them down and essentially instruct them on how to harm themselves.

Moving on, what about identity?

But let’s take gender disruption or confusion for example. Your child now has over 64 titles to choose from concerning who they are.

Do you think the move to remove the “concept” of “man” and “woman” is a new thing?

Absolutely not! And the American Psychological Association was one of the trailblazers.


The removing of pronouns, changing terms from “breastfeeding” to “chestfeeding” and passing executive orders allowing biological males to compete against biological females, which all took place over the last month is really not the beginning of this. Not at all.


Why would someone like me do a double take when a headline catches my eye about changing “breastfeeding” to “chestfeeding?”

I am sharing the Snopes article because it outlines what the article said and verifies the original source of what was said.


https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/chestfeeding-breastfeeding/

What was the APA up to 30 years ago, and why?

Note the date on the article link. 1991. Back in 1991 (30 years ago!!!!) the leaders in my field and the medical field were already in the throws of shifting the culture when it comes to the way our children think about themselves.


https://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/language


And today, your child has 64+ terms to choose from when it comes to expressing who they are, how they want you to see them and treat them, and the rights they have. Call me simple, but if our children are bogged down with this, when they should be “bogged down” with learning basic academics, growing a healthy body and mind, being a contributing member of their family, their class and their community, they are actually plucked off that path and put on the path of, “Are you sure you are a ‘her?'”

More than 64 titles to choose from!

So who is raising your children anyway?

We, as parents, have become complacent. We are busy. We took the “It Takes a Village” to mean, “I’ll give my children a roof over their head, they can learn about sex at school, the coaches can manage their physical fitness and social needs….”

Parents, your time is NOW!

The “village” isn’t going to answer for how your children turn out and the “village” isn’t going to give your children everything that they didn’t get from you while growing up. Well, maybe the village will give it to them. It depends on where this whole wave of socialism goes. We give to our children parenting that helps them become strong, confident, self-sufficient, humble, kind, smart, helps them know how to get what they need and want when it’s not delivered to them on a silver platter. We give our children the coping skills and the skills of managing their emotions naturally and maturely when their emotions become very difficult or painful.

It’s never too late to be a family!

By Tracy Lamperti March 30, 2025
Do you get it that every time we seem to turn on the tv, news or in the movies these days the boys and men are getting terrible representation? Whether they are kowtowing to a bossy woman, making obscene gestures or noises, getting drunk or on drugs, committing some stupid crime, espousing the effeminate or acting like a pompus a__, or the countless other ways that they are being portrayed. What was wrong with Davy Crockett, or Huck Finn, Andy Griffith, Superman? Why have Sponge Bob and Homer Simpson and the many other “men” of today been selling by being so stupid? I am not up on any of today’s shows, but I get the point from the stories I hear, that it is not good. Even when an olympic star comes into the spotlight, all too often the story is tainted by some remark or behavior he made, not realizing everyone was watching. Where are the boys supposed to get their education? And what about the girls? Where are they supposed to learn who would make a good husband and father?  What brought this on was my prepping for morning meeting tomorrow at the Lamperti Homeschool. I was looking for something good in The Children’s Book of Virtues , Edited by William J. Bennett, Illustrated by Michael Hague. I just happened to open to page 38, Boy Wanted , by Frank Crane. I won’t put the whole story here, but here is a sample.
By Tracy Lamperti March 30, 2025
Photo by Michelle Kaye
By Tracy Lamperti March 30, 2025
What are those? Are those beans? What are they for? Can I touch them? One can learn a lot about a child by watching them play. Play gives us a glimpse into the thought process, emotions, relationships and the way they organise and put things together. With beans, even a teenager or adult can “sort things out” with beans, sand and other materials. Beans make a good medium for tea parties, hide and seek, play ground play, imaginative water, etc. In fact, beans can bring comfort to all ages. Children who don’t feel like they have a voice or have trouble sharing their thoughts and feelings often find themselves running their hands through the field of beans. The same goes for teenagers. Little ones, of course want to play with the beans, which provides a great opportunity to evaluate self-control, adherance to limits and their depth of imagination or level of organization. Beans are awesome! The video shown here represents a variety of bean benefits! An older adolescent, actually, a young adult, worked out many complicated issues in her sessions week after week while sorting beans. This person successfully sorted out ALL of the kidney beans, sorting on many levels! It is so curious to children to come to their therapy session and notice that something has happened involving the beans. It gives children and teens a real sense of commonality with others as well as insight. They come to learn that some people think like they do and some think differently, and it’s all ok. They learn that, while I may share something about the “beans,” I won’t “spill the beans.” They can trust that I will keep their confidence, just like I keep the confidence of the last “bean worker.” As you see in the video, a young person is re-mixing the kidney beans. This young person, being someone who really struggles with self-control and had been held back for weeks from mixing the beans that had been sorted out. We shared such a delightful moment when she was finally permitted to “mix!” Timing is so important, but relationship is more! So the cycle will continue when many young people come in this week and discover the new state of the beans!  Tracy Lamperti, Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant
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