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Using the CARE Practice Prompts

These prompts are designed to work alongside your CARE cards. Choose the CARE card that fits what you want to focus on, then choose a prompt from that section.

You don't need to move through the prompts in order. Choose what fits the moment, and return to favorites as often as you'd like.

Connect

1. What’s something I did this week that made you feel cared for?
2. What's one quality you admire in me that you don’t say very often?
3. What’s something I’ve done recently that made life easier for you?
4. What’s one thing you’re grateful we’re building together?
5. What’s something you’d love more of between us?
6. What’s something you’re hoping for this season?
7. Do you have a dream that you wonder if it is possible?
8. Is there a goal that you would like to work toward together?
9. Do you have a need that I might not be aware of?
10. Is there a need that you have expressed that you don’t feel I have heard?
11. What helps you feel emotionally safe or open?
12. What makes intimacy feel difficult?
13. When do you feel closest physically and emotionally?
14. Is there a moment or experience between us that’s stayed with you that you would like to return to?

Attune

1. How much heaviness do you feel about money —low, high, somewhere in between?
2. Is there anything about our finances you’ve been thinking about but haven’t mentioned?
3. What’s one financial goal you’d love for us to work toward together?
4. What’s been bringing you joy?
5. What’s been wearing you out?
6. What do you tell yourself when you feel like you are doing most of the initiating —any area of your life together, not just sexual?
7. When you feel misunderstood, what happens inside you?
8. What's been taking up the most space in your mind lately?
9. What's been heavier than people probably realize?
10. What's harder than it looks from the outside?
11. What's something you've been thinking about but haven't said out loud?
12. What tends to overwhelm you?
13. What feels scary?
14. What currently feels tender?
    

Relate

1. What happens inside you when your partner check in with you when you are apart, just to say “I love you” or “thinking of you.”?
2. Does it ever feel difficult to reach for me when you are hurting?
3. What happens inside you when you sense my hurting?
4. When do you feel most heard by me?
5. What helps you know I’m really listening and hearing you?
6. Is there something you’ve wanted to tell me but haven’t found the right time?
7. Is there a conversation that feels difficult?
8. How does it make you feel when you know you were the first to hear the good news, or a significant experience?
9. When conflict happens, what do you usually do first?
10. What emotions have been showing up most lately?
11. What happens inside you after conflict?
12. What makes you feel alone?
13. What responses leave you feeling unseen?
14. What kinds of responses help you feel accompanied?
15. Where do you think we've misunderstood each other recently?
16. Where do you feel far apart?
17. What currently feels tender?
18. When have you felt closest to me lately?
19. When have you felt deeply seen?
20. When have you felt emotionally alone?
21. When do you feel most emotionally held?
22. When do you feel most emotionally held?

Ease

1. What do you tend to do first when you notice you are having a strong emotion?
2. What helps you feel close to me?
3. What helps you feel supported?
4. When emotions are high, what would help you take a break and come back later?
5. When we disagree, what helps you come back to the conversation and pick it back up?
6. How do you know you’re ready to reconnect?
7. What’s something I do that makes reconnecting easier?
8. What do you fear when we have a conflict?